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Wednesday 3 December 2014

Why I'm a Woman of Questionable Character

Painting by Thomas Saliot

After a night-out , at 4 in the morning I end up at a friend's house for more drinks. Drowsiness ( or tipsy-ness) catches up. I yawn and am ready to crash.

' I have a spare toothbrush If you need one' he says,

' Oh that's alright. I have my own ' I say and pull one out of my bag.

' You have a toothbrush with you?! That means you're a slut '

' A What?!?!'

' A slut. Means you were going to crash somewhere'  he says.

Hmmmmmmmm.

So now I'm a slut just for carrying my toothbrush around on a pre-planned night-out that all my friends knew of.

Now that I ponder on it, I am in fact , as deemed , a 'slut'. I go where I like, I dress rather provocatively whenever I head out. My hair is an unnatural shade of red. I once had my eyebrow , tongue and navel pierced. Controversial personal choices decodes for 'slut' or 'hooker' by itself.
I gossip with my girlfriends about who's hot , who's cute , who's doable and who's not , and all sorts of stereotypical depraved behaviour.

If a woman has a sexual appetite or lives the lifestyle equivalent to that of a 'player' , she's a slut by default. If she's an older woman , she's a cougar. If she is wearing a fitted leopard print dress then that translate as kinkiness that could make a man's teenage wet dreams come true.

Ironically , the guy with the spare toothbrush , who might have been mostly or even half expecting sex is not labelled anything.  But I'm a slut. I'm a slut for choosing to wear red lipstick and smoldering kohl during the day. I'm desperate if I desire a male body to sleep beside me tonight.

Sadly , I have no shame, I'm not at all bothered by old-dusted-off-to-look-new title that I recently acquired. Foolishly I thought now that I'm an adult , all this would stop and prior to this there hadn't been an echo of it either.

Henceforth I shall proudly put on my proclaimed  'SLUT ' sash and crown, smoke a cigarette as I would on a normal day and ash on your misogyny-crafted shoes.

خُدا حافِظ

*Disclaimer: This post is purely satirical however the catalyst incident was true to life. The post was written to highlight how hurtful it is to call a girl a 'slut' and is not a matter that can be joked about or a word to throw around casually.






7 comments:

  1. Everyone should have the right to make his/her personal choices, without being judged.

    Everyone should also have the patience to atleast listen to advice/counsel from loved ones.

    Cheers
    CRD

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    1. That is true. Live and let live. Also don't label anyone for their choices. To each is own.

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  2. hi there, I have three questions for you :))
    1) how come you had a douche-bag friend like the above. :)
    2) what do you think of God of small things
    3) do you wanna co-write a novel ?

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    1. Hi
      That douche-bag is no longer my friend :p
      I'm currently reading the God of Small Things
      I would love to co-write or write a novel someday! That's my ultimate dream.

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  3. Hello my dear Optical fiber. People who know you very well, know what you are. Your firaand just showed his narrow thinking ability. By the way very well written post. :D

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    1. My ex-friend now thankfully. You are right Sridevi. Neither me nor any other woman should put up with this kind of negativity.
      Thank you so much! :)

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  4. Mehreen!!... how r u?? Hope all is well... i agree that i might be a bit too late to comment on this post... the last post was on Feb...but to be honest after reading your post...i was really taken away with the style of your wrtting.. and i had to really let you know that your posts are addictive..
    Many people do not really open up or talk about things related to these kinds of topic..
    if i have to say anything about the 'wierdo'...someone should teach him a few things...firstly the difference between a toothbrush and dildo....i would be very happy to know my girlfriend or even if my one night stand was hygiene!!=D
    Second...people should know their Limits on getting into personal space and bubble...especially if it was a one night stand...it should not really matter what you do with your life...
    Third...You really cant Judge or Name anyone.....NO ONE CAN JUDGE ANYONE!!! sooo wrong...

    But...i would also like to say that it isnt really his fault...thats how the society thinks and Stereotypes...its the people who need to change...the bloody society!!! i dont know how to do that that is change the society or people like your one night stand per say....but if i could i would take a group of people...get him down to the streets and point at him and shout "SHAME!!!".... Like in G.O.T...=P
    May not be affective...but a start..

    Hope all is well with you mehreen...keep in touch!!=D

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